Dottie Explains It All

What are the homeless reading?

2009-08-27T14:37:00.002-06:00

I grew up for the most part in Iowa City, IA. And there is a pervasive urban myth that there are people with post-graduate degrees living under one of the bridges that separates the University of Iowa campus from downtown. These over-educated people who vefallen on hard times collect cans and bottles for the 5 cents deposit and live communally discussing Proust and quoting Richard Feynman to each other. And if you bring them a rotisserie chicken from the grocery store or some canned goods they will help you write papers or study for exams.
I never went under the bridge, although I do know people who claimed they did and that their excellent grades bore the proof of the legend. Something about going under a bridge to find people driven insane at the prospect of finishing their dissertation, frightened me. The whole carrying a rotisserie chicken under a bridge had a very Grimm's fairytale vibe. In my opinion Little Red Riding Hood was asking for it. The people who walk by my apartment on their way home from the donut shop are risking their lives. They would be fools to actually enter my lair, and ask me my opinion on whether Hemingway should be completely tossed aside, or whether he should be considered in the context of the period. So I will never know for sure just how brilliant those bridge dwellers may be. But I've been wondering what the homeless read lately. Every time I go the library there are dozens of ragged people reading books and magazines. They aren't just trying to stay cool or warm. They are actually reading. And it made me wonder what would I read if I never had to impress another person with my intellect? What if my life had taken such a harsh turn that I no longer had to slide reading time into working or family obligations? What if I could spend 12 hours a day surrounded by the totality of human knowledge and experience committed to the page? What thoughts would I want to have when I wasn't consumed with the need to make money? Well after several weeks of asking them what they're reading and picking up the tomes they leave lying around,the answer is...Stephen King and the Economist magazine. Apparently homeless people are liberal and enjoy pop fiction. They also read a massive amount of philosophy and history. Nietzsche is really big with the homeless. Which confirms my suspicion that majoring in philosophy will lead one down the path to indigence. So tell your children to study engineering. And the next time you see a homeless person reading something tell me what it was.

Come Back Christian Slater. We're sorry...

2009-08-23T15:47:00.002-06:00

Last night I watched Pump Up the Volume. And I learned a lot. (1) Seth Green was in it! WTF? He played the kid who pipes the guidance counselor's speech over the PA system. (2) I must have mostly watched it on USA or TNT when I was a teenager, because there is a shitload of f-bombs and Samantha Mathis showed her tits. In fact she did an entire scene topless. How could I have forgotten that? And(3) Christian Slater was great. He actually made quite a few good movies in the 90's. Gleaming the Cube, in which he solved his adopted brother's murder, and Heathers are two of my favorites. But arguably his best work was in Pump up the Volume. He creates two unique characters. Mark, the shy new kid with no friends who can't talk to girls. And Happy Harry Hard-on, a teen Lenny Bruce and reactionary channeling Eric Bogosian in Talk Radio. It was bloody brilliant. So why the FUCK did we throw him away? Keanu Reeves we kept. Johnny Depp we kept. For Godsakes, John Travolta has been turning up like a Canadian penny every two years since the 70's. But Christian Slater is stuck doing B-moves and crappy television shows that won't make it to November sweeps. So what? The guy did some drugs. So he bit some people. Okay. Maybe he was a self-aggrandizing wannabe James Dean. But he had the talent to back it up. If I was a screenwriter I would try to find a project for him. He's still good looking. He still owns the screen any time he is on it. The man is a moviestar. He just doesn't have a movie career to speak of.
While I'm complaining I should also ask the question of why the movie itself is so seldomly mentioned as a cultural touchstone. The music is a time capsule of the period. The clothes are a great deal more indicative of the time than in Heathers. And the monologues Hard Harry gives completely encapsulated how Generation-X became Generation "Why bother" until September 11 gave us a little persepctive. Harry gave voice to the confusion that resulted from being the children of Baby Boomers. I will not force you to endure another of my diatribes against Baby Boomers. But how were we supposed to be committed and engaged when we'd seen how easily sixties radicals who fought the establishment, became the establishment. And of course the film provides the requisite teen angst bullshit, this time with a very small body count (just the kid who killed himself). Rebellion used to be cool. Nowadays teenagers would suck Hitler's cock to fit in. No one rebels anymore. Every teenager I know is preoccupied with listening to the right music, having the right gadgets, and finding a way to get famous. In addition the film has one of the best villains of any teen movie, in the test score obsessed school principal Mrs. Crestwood. She kicks out all the kids who don't fit in and are unlikely to have high SAT scores. She considers some of the kids "losers" and ruins their lives. She gives a cold red bun wearing face to the bureaucracy that every teen is afraid of. She takes away the children's futures, just because she wants to. She has all the power and all they can do is take it. In comparison Darth Vadar was just a henchman for the Emperor.
If you haven't watched Pump Up the Volume in more than five years, I insist that you watch it right now. Otherwise you won't believe me just how awesome it was, and what it meant to you as a teen. And do what you can to give Christian Slater a career. Even if you have to watch the shit he does now.

I resent Carrie Bradshaw

2009-08-04T19:38:00.002-06:00

I've been a fan of Sex and the City since the show debuted. I loved it. I even loved the movie although it was a bit depressing, and if I had been Carrie Bradshaw's gal pal, I never would have let her marry Mr. Big. It took him six years to commit to her fully and four more to propose. If it takes a man ten years to determine that you're the woman for him, you most likely aren't the woman for him. The average income for a professional writer i.e. someone who doesn't teach or have another job is $25,000-$60,000. So unless Ms.Bradshaw moonlights as J.K. Rowling or Stephen King she is conservatively about a half million dollars in credit card debt, and owns a million dollar apartment in Manhattan. She wrote three books, but they were breezy little dating memoirs that likely sold in the neighborhood of 20,000 copies. A writer makes a little less than a dollar per copy sold and 10%-15% goes to their agent. John Irving sold 3 times that number of books and didn't quit his job teaching out of fear that his children would starve. She also was a weekly columnist in a modest circulation newspaper. The real money in newspapers is in syndication. She wasn't syndicated. One paper carried her byline. I'm a columnist in a modest circulation newspaper. I'm considering taking a part-time job as a weed dealer. I'm not going to. But if I did, and i got caught, the judge would understand the financial need. Her last revenue stream is the occasional article in Vogue. Now don't get me wrong, Vogue is one sweet gig. It's a magazine that you can't even pitch articles to unless your agent is a rock star and you're a stud in your chosen area of expertise. But they only pay a freelancer $5000 an article. Carrie Bradshaw might be wearing those high heeled shoes because she's got a second career as a high priced call girl.
I understand that fantasy is fantasy. That a certain suspension of belief is necessary for entertainment purposes. But I resent the way she makes the life of a writer look easy and glamorous. I assure it's not. I'm a freelance writer. And I spend most of my day doing commercial writing to subsidize my dream of writing creatively. It's a minimum of 12 hours a day spent at my desk, and another 4 hours a day looking for more work. Novelists slave day and night for years to churn out books. Non-fiction writers barely break even on their books because of the research costs. The life of a writer is spent alone in a world that is largely self-contained and self-created. It's not ten minutes a week spent dashing off 500 words on the guy you're sleeping with. At least not unless you're looking to be one of those homeless people who insist on reciting you their poetry so they don't feel like its charity when you give them $5. The life of a professional writer is 360 days a year wearing sweatpants and 5 days year being wined and dined and congratulated on the brilliance of what you wrote. It's a fulfilling life full of intellectual challenge. It's great. But it isn't glamorous. Carrie Bradshaw is clearly dealing weed. That show is about a weed dealer.

I don't usually like commercials but this one is awesome

2009-07-01T13:18:00.000-06:00

LL Sexy Darcy

2009-06-28T20:10:00.002-06:00

Yes. You heard me right. Ladies Love Sexy Darcy. Pride and Prejudice is one of my favorite books in part because of Fitzwilliam Darcy. He is surely a bit of a snob at the beginning of the book. But as anyone who has read the books or seen the movies knows he's not proud, he's discerning. He's a man of principal. He isn't simply a handsome rich dilettante like Binghley. He's not a playboy and a bounder like Wickham. He's an adult male. And adult males are often in short supply. My best friend Tim thinks Elizabeth Bennett was a bit of a gold digger because she didn't really like him until she saw his gorgeous estate Pemberley. Pure coincidence. She fell for him when he showed her his vulnerability at Lady Catherine's home when he admitted that he is not in the habit of conversing easily with people he doesn't already know. And then she liked him a bit more when she saw him with his beloved kid sister Georgianna. But sadly I think one of the reasons Elizabeth liked him is that he fulfills the female fantasy that inside that rude, insufferable, jackass that treats you like dirt beats the heart of a lovestruck young man who doesn't know how to show you how much he likes you. This is a dangerous thought. It's insanity like that, that convinces women to date men who never call and don't pay attention when we talk. For me it's more about the way that he loves her in spite of his own common sense. That he loves Elizabeth despite the impending embarrassment of being connected to her humiliating family. That he spent thousands of pounds and untold hours helping her family out of a jam. He made sure Lydia was married because her disgrace would distress his beloved. Darcy is a man. Darcy takes care of people. As a modern independent woman I don't need a man to pay my rent, or buy my food, but I do from time to time need someone to take on a task so big and overwhelming that it makes me want to take to my bed. Darcy would carry a sick dog a mile to the vet. Darcy would change all my light bulbs to energy efficient ones. Darcy could mop up 10 gallons of water and get a plumber to fix my toilet. Darcy is sexy because he is trapped in amber. He has been traditionally masculine for 200 years. For him the definition of manhood never changes. That's what we like about Darcy. Society changes but he stays the same.

Nothing Gold can stay

2009-06-26T13:25:00.003-06:00

Like Most people I was sad to hear about the passing of Michael Jackson. No matter what we all think of his personal peccadilloes he was a father, a son, a brother, and a friend. He died quite young and the people who loved him will miss him. Long after the public memorials are over people will mourn him privately for the rest of their lives. The Onion made a funny yet incredibly tasteless joke about the fact that he "died at age 12." And that got me thinking. As tributes and memorials fill my television I can't help but note that that all the praise is tempered by a focus on his personal shortcomings. The plastic surgery, the child molestation accusations, and the increasingly odd behavior. His legacy may never be what it should have been because he has spent the better part of 20 years taking a sledgehammer to it. Legends die young. That's just how it is. Marlon Brando was arguably as brilliant an actor as James Dean. But Dean died at the height of his fame and at the pinnacle of his talent. Marlon Brando had an additional 40 years in which he became obese and made films like Don Juan Demarco. Mr. Jackson’s father-in-law Elvis Presley died just as his legacy was beginning to take a hit. He had gone from a bluesy rock sex-symbol, possibly the first one, to a bloated spectacle on the Vegas stage. Can you imagine if he'd lived another 20 years? Michael Jackson made some pretty catchy music in the 90's but the third millennium was not kind to the King of Pop, just as he was not kind to the people who loved him and wanted to believe in him. I was in elementary school when he released Thriller. And my brother and I zombie danced in our living rooms as I'm sure you did too. But in high school I learned about the molestation accusations. I believed them wholeheartedly. I still do. And it was a disappointment on par with the day I realized that my seemingly indomitable parents sometimes got scared and often cried. It felt like the moment when I realized that few of us grow up to be the person we thought we'd be. A comedian once remarked that if it was true that we can all grow up to be whatever we want, its curious that he's never been in a room full of ballerinas and space cowboys. Michael Jackson's childlike refusal to admit that we all grow up and go to work, and adulthood is scary and fraught with responsibilities we find overwhelming, felt like a betrayal. Real art comes from the truth and Michael Jackson refused to live with the truth. Thriller is brilliant because it was not only a pop record but one that moved our bodies and excited us. Even Bad and Dangerous had songs about the way he saw the world and what it was at the time. Black or White? Man in the Mirror? Those are songs that are honest. But when Jackson's appearance became a lie and his behavior became like a endless performance art piece, he managed to make his brilliant past less relevant and venerable. We like our legends captured in amber or sealed in a Time Capsule.

Men on their periods...

2009-06-15T23:21:00.002-06:00

The first lines of Bonnie Tyler’s 80’s classic tune Holding out for a Hero asks the question best, “Where have all the good men gone?/And where are all the Gods?”
I'm going to take a potentially controversial stance and declare the sensitive male a failed experiment. I have been told by women twenty to sixty years older than me that once upon a time men were encouraged to be emotionally closed off and distant. That if you saw one cry you were somehow injuring his testicles, and if one hugged you, you were either a small child or on fire and they were patting out the flames on your back. I have no doubt that must have been terrible. To spend all your time ball and chained to someone with marginal interest in talking to you, who couldn't empathize. But in the 90's as if to prove there is a downside to everything, there began a movement in reaction to second and third wave feminism to make men more sensitive. We told them that it was okay to cry when they were sad and scared, and to not be afraid to show vulnerability. On the surface it seemed like a good idea. Once men could admit they were weak too, they wouldn't need to prevent women from feeling strong. But it's gone too far.
I don't want to hold a grown man while he cries. I don't want Emo music to exist. I refer to it as the music of the whiny middle-class white boy who's Daddy didn't hug him enough. I want to return to an age when men like George Clooney roamed the earth freely just like the noble buffalo. Men who admit they aren't the marriage and kids type and don't feel compelled to change it so they don't look self-involved and infantile. And should a man breed I don't want to hear him say, "We're having a baby". No you're not. Your wife/girlfriend/surrogate mother/teen babysitter is having a baby. You're going to a "father." Unless you are at all physically involved beyond crawling on top of her to deposit your DNA of dubious merit, you're not doing anything until the baby arrives. No uterus, no cheesy discussions of the miracle of life. That is my rule, break it at your own peril. I forgive the mother-to-be her flowery meanderings because she's hormonal,large, and vulnerable to predators. But dudes, Man up! If she wanted to have a baby with another chick, all it takes is $400 in sperm. Earn the right to hitch yourself to her woman wagon. Do something she can't or doesn't particularly want to do. But I'm sure she has the emotional sentimentality thing locked down.
Although I loved the Notebook it shouldn't have been as successful as it was. Men told other men to go see it. The first time I saw it in the theater there were as many men crying as women. I’m not talking a manly sniffle like at the end of Brian’s Song when it becomes obvious that Brian Piccolo isn’t going to make it, or the misting of the eyes when Captain Kirk eulogizes Spock at the end of Wrath of Khan. I’m talking full on dabbing the eyes with a napkin crying. The only way I could accept it was to assume that the audience was full of guys that really love their grandparents and the Alzheimer storyline was the culprit.
A few weeks ago I needed some hand lotion. And every guy in my department at work had some on his desk. I can't live in a world were the men have softer hands than I do. If men are going to be soft to the touch what will we as women have to bargain with. Study after study comes out saying we're smarter and more of us are college educated so they don't get to have pretty pets on their arms. We make our own money so they can't take care of us like houseplants. And many a bisexual man has said the best naughty spank-spank time he ever had was with other dudes. Heck a few straight men will say that the one time they tippy-toed over the fence to try a Mojito and an episode of Grey's Anatomy that it was pretty great, so we can't even represent ourselves as wanton sex toys. If it continues like this the world is going to start to resemble a seventh grade dance. Boys on one side and girls on the other, except when it’s time to make babies.
My concern was only deepened by a talk with one of my two unattached female friends. We both just ended relationships that we were actually still enjoying, because the guys became clingy. In my case it started out pretty good. We were mutually physically attracted, had an amazing time talking to each other, and liked to do the same things. And right up front we were clear no one was falling in love. That we were missing that special something that makes the difference between love and being in love. So we weren't going to try to make it something it wasn't. Flash forward six months and he feels used. And he cried. And he doesn't understand why I don't love him. A generation ago he may have felt that way but he would have kept it to himself. And that's all I'm asking. I'm not asking for some kind of uber-butch Marlboro man. I think we can for the most part agree that Brokeback Mountain blew that iconography out of the water. I'm just looking for a little yin and yang. Contrasting but complimentary perspectives. And I know this is a tough line to walk. Because we could end up back in the days of Gender Jim Crow. Separate but equal. He gets to go out and cure cancer, you get to wipe baby butt and make the perfect mac and cheese. That's no good either. I guess all I'm saying is that the next time I'm crying at the movies I want to look over at my date with tears in my eyes and have him put his arm around me. I don't want him to collapse in sobs and put his head in my lap.
In the interest of clarifying my point allow me to offer a quiz that should clear up what I think is too sensitive. If you answer yes to two or more of these questions you're too sensitive to exist in my world.
1. Have you ever said to another person, "I feel like you're emotionally absent. Why are you withholding?"
2. Have you ever cried after sex because you were "so happy?"
3. Can you say, "Here comes the hug doctor to give you you're daily dose" and not feel like kicking your own ass?
4. Have you ever asked a naked woman, "Can we just cuddle?"
5. Do you think your wife or girlfriend would love you more if you had a better body and have made her reassure you that she finds you attractive?
6. Do you listen to Emo music?
7. Do you only play acoustic guitar?
8. Do you have a problem that you've traced back to it's childhood roots and feel comfortable talking about it while getting a blow job?
9. Are you currently stroking a cat or holding a baby that doesn't belong to you?
10. Do women who you are sleeping with think you're gay?

Where’s Your God Now Moses?

2009-06-15T23:06:00.002-06:00

There are two romantic comedy icons for women of my generation. Lloyd Dobbler from Say Anything and Jake Ryan from Sixteen Candles. Although I do hate to put us gals in piles I have to. Just like there are points of contention that formed different Islamic factions, I think you can know where a woman stands and her attitude about love based on which of these two lads she preferred. Lloyd Dobbler acolytes were often too smart for the room, and wore flannel shirts between 1991 and 1993. They dated guys in bands. Or even guys who openly wrote poetry in high school. And they’re convinced that somewhere in the world there is a guy who won’t care that they’re complicated and damaged. And despite protestations to the contrary they want to be rescued and worshipped like a pagan goddess, and be considered too precious to walk around broken glass.
On the surface Lloyd was a good guy. He was cute, earnest, and very caring. But he was also extremely co-dependent. All he wanted was to be with his girlfriend, essentially all the time. He left his family and friends to go with her to London with no clear plans as to what he was going to do once he got there.Now I like to be appreciated as much as the next girl, but I also like my boyfriends to have something more going on in their lives than me. You know hobbies and interests, and maybe even an education and a job.
A smart woman would also be troubled by the fact that Lloyd had no close male relationships. His three best friends were girls. And none of them seemed even remotely interested in him. His social life consisted of being an eunuch and baby-sitter for a suicidal Alanis Morrisette wannabe and her entourage. His only male friends were troglodytic drinking buddies that not even he respected. Lloyd lived with his single working mother older sister. And it’s established early in the film that Lloyd’s father is some kind of alpha male Army officer that wants him to follow in his footsteps. His father had been dragging him around the world from base to base, and only let him come back to the states so that he could finish high school. And Daddy Dobbler didn’t make the trip for his son’s graduation. So Lloyd has some Daddy issues and consequently some male intimacy issues. Can a man know how to be a man with a woman, if he doesn’t know how to be a man with other men? I don’t think so.
Now bear with me I only have two more criticisms of Mr. Dobbler. First thing the stalking. There is a fine line between romance and menace. And I think standing outside my window playing the song that was on the radio when we lost our virginities to each other is on the crazy side. That kind of thing would make me feel like he couldn’t live without me and had no intention of letting me live without him. Like maybe he pleasures himself to the memory while he’s dressed in my clothes and carves my name into his chest with the pen I gave him when I broke up with him. Anybody else imagining him repeating over and over to himself, “I gave her my heart. And she gave me a pen” as he slowly carves each bloody letter? Okay that might just be me. But it’s dawn in the scene so either he’s been at it several hours, or he’s been up all night and he’s sleep deprived and consequently a little difficult to reason with,. I like my men to have a bowl of Capn’ Crunch and workout in the mornings, not come over to my house with a freaky bold gesture.
Lastly I feel like the lack of ambition and strong sense of self really need to be stressed. He tries to mend the relationship between Diane and her father and writes letters foisting complicated emotions onto a teenage girl essentially making her responsible for his entire happiness. Diane comes back to him in a moment of weakness because she needs someone to support her because her father is going to prison. And Lloyd asks her if she came back because she needs him, or because she needs someone. Before she can answer he says he doesn’t care. He just wants her so much he doesn’t care if he’s being used. Lloyd is sad. Lloyd is pathetic. Lloyd if he was a real person would be twice divorced by 40 and a constant source of embarrassment to his children. Lloyd should be no one’s ideal man.
But Jake Ryan shouldn’t be anyone’s ideal man either. I will concede that Michael Shoeffling who played him in Sixteen Candles was a well constructed, attractive man. But he wore fair isle sweater vests and rolled his jeans. For those of you over 35 or under 25, rolling the cuffs of your jeans if you were a guy was an early sign of what eventually became metrosexuality. It was fussy and not at all butch to be seen doing it. It was fey on par with a man today who brags about using moisturizer on his face. Lots of straight guys who were in many ways traditionally masculine did it, but none will admit it unless you have photographic proof. I have a friend who was a drug addict and thief for 20 years. He contracted HIV while frequenting prostitutes all over the world. And he has openly stated that not having ever rolled his jeans is an argument in favor of him being a solid citizen. So hopefully I have illustrated the prejudice leveled against men who rolled their jeans.
Putting fashion aside Jake Ryan also had very bad associations. His best friends were cheerleaders and jocks. Lots of wonderful and worthwhile people were cheerleaders or athletic growing up, but I find it unlikely that 1980’s film stereotype jocks and their succubus were quality people. Raise your hand if a jock or cheerleader made fun of you in high school. That’s all I’m saying.
Jake drove a shiny red Porsche. His dad had a gold Rolls Royce and he lived in a large stately home. So how is it possible that Jake isn’t so superficial that it’s unbelievable that he’d dump the most beautiful girl in school for some quirky sophomore with a flat chest? But that is part of the mythos of Jake. Now I’m hesitant to let you infer that I’m saying that a rich popular teenage boy would never have chosen a not particularly cute girl with a good personality. Because maybe it could happen. Maybe. I’m sure this is a failure of imagination on my part. But come on. Really? The basic implausibility of the premise of the movie isn’t the fault of fictional person Jake. Jake has his own flaws. Like the fact that he punched an inebriated Chinese foreign exchange student in a moment of homosexual panic. Earlier in the same evening he spoke candidly about taking advantage of his girlfriend who was passed out drunk in his bedroom. He actually used the word “violate." Since when is non-consensual sex okay even in the confines of a committed relationship? But obviously Jake didn’t really give a crap about his girlfriend Caroline because he trades her for a pair of another girl's underwear. In exchange for the underwear Farmer Ted the geek, got to drive her home. Jake gave him no explicit instructions to act like a gentleman. He left someone he presumably was dating in the care of a freshman without a driver’s license who had been drinking. But the capper is that he had a girlfriend and was shopping around to trade her in for a younger model. I feel like Charlton Heston in the Ten Commandments when Edward G. Robinson as pharaoh is taunting him, “Where’s your God now Moses?”. Where are my Gods now? I often look at myself and the women of my generation who surround me and I wonder “How did we get so fucked up”. It can’t have just been the single parent homes and the spiritually bankrupt culture of the 80’s and 90’s where religion was a dirty word. Something turned us into the fragmented, ineffectual, emotionally retarded people that we have to struggle not to be. I’m going to steal a page from the pundits and blame TV and movies. It’s all I’ve got.

I Don't Care about Harry Potter

2009-03-06T11:58:00.000-07:00

My dear friend L.L. was practically orgasmic today because there is a new Harry Potter trailer available online. I doubt if I wasn’t just limited to my native tongue of English, a smattering of Japanese, a dash of Hindi, and tourist French, and my brain contained every language spoken by not just humans but lingual primates and birds I could accurately express just how much I DON’T GIVE A FUCK about Harry Potter. My response to my rather frenzied friend as she tried to explain her passion was a Spock-like “That is highly illogical” and “Oh. Well that seems imaginative”. I don’t understand feeling passionate about something that can’t return the favor. I have been known to geek out over both Star Wars and Star Trek (I’m bi-geekgual) but the frenzy of the Potter People confuses me. I have never felt the way people feel about Harry Potter about anything. I nearly married a guy that I wouldn’t read seven 700 page books about. Admittedly those books would have mostly been about smoking weed, sleeping with lots of girls, and his sworn enemy mayonnaise. But even if you gave him magical powers I still wouldn’t have read seven 700 page books about him.
Another thing…I have cried exactly once when a fictional person died. Brenda on General Hospital. It was a really easy semester in college and I didn’t need to study. And I became emotionally ensnared in a soap opera. Brenda and I had been through a lot those six months and when her car went off that cliff and then I later saw her fiancé staring into the water saying to himself, “But Brenda we said this time no one leaves”, I gave a shit. But that character went on to die a couple more times and I watched stone-faced while eating grilled cheese sandwiches. You know why? Because she isn’t real. She’s not going to heaven or hell and the people who are sad that she died aren’t real either so their feelings aren’t real. But Dumbeldore and Cederic Digory kick the bucket and there is public morning.
L.L. claims the appeal of the Potter world is the fantasy of magical powers. She thinks it’s weird that I never wanted magical powers. I think it makes perfect sense. I was the only black person in every school I went to until I was 13 and then I was like 1 of 4 and the only one not athletic. It’s been my dream since I was three just to fit in and be like everyone else. Magic powers would just give me one more thing to feel like a freak about. I work hard to conceal the things that make me unique. The nail that sticks out the farthest receives the most hammering. I think people who are that obsessed with the fantasy should stop living through Harry Potter and do something extraordinary with their own lives.
But in fairness to people who think I’m being a rag. I provide you with a list of things I like with an infinitesimal fraction of the fixation of Potter-fans and you can dump on them at will.
The Notebook
My hero worship of writer Mark Salzman
Grey’s Anatomy
Films in which a plucky group of urban teens must dance to improve their situation in life
The oeuvre of Andrew McCarthy

Just Listen

2009-02-13T16:04:00.001-07:00

I love my Ipod...But I kinda hate Apple

2009-01-16T14:44:00.000-07:00

Anderson Cooper and Dogs? God really does love me.

2009-01-08T10:30:00.000-07:00

The most embarssing grocery checkout in human history

2009-01-05T13:29:00.004-07:00

Yesterday, I was flirting with a complete dreamboat at my local Smith's grocery store. Things were going well. He'd even asked for my phone number. And then suddenly he looked at my grocery basket and made a hasty retreat. As I reviewed my receipt at home to make sure I hadn't been overcharged or forgotten something I decided I will never hear from that young man in this or any other lifetime...
Metamucil (I have irritable bowel, I need the fiber)
KY Jelly Tingling Personal lubricant
4 pack AA batteries
Yoplait Plus yogurt
Activia (Yep. Two kinds of yogurt that help you poop)
Nutella
5 lbs of apples
Super Plus deodorizing tampons
I can't help but imagine that somewhere in the world he is tossing my number into garbage because he doesn't want to get mixed up with a sexually frustrated constipated person who is insecure about vaginal freshness. Now if I'd had just one of the above embarrassing items in my basket I'm sure it wouldn't have been a big deal. But I don't blame Mr. No Call. There was no room for romance in that shopping cart.

My chance to be on Dateline

2009-01-05T13:18:00.001-07:00

Whenever I watch Dateline I sort of feel left out that no one tries to scam money out of me. But finally today someone tried to. Here is the email. I'm so proud. I feel like an adult...
Dear Friend,

I am Mr ALAN COOPER a personal chief financial treasurer to Mikhail Khodorkovsky the Richest man in Russia and owner of the following companies: Chairman CEO: YUKOS OIL (Russian Largest Oil Company) Chairman CEO: Menatep SBP Bank (A well reputable financial institution with itґs Branches all over the world) SOURCE OF FUNDS: I have a profiling amount to the tune of ($15,100,000.00) (Fifteen million,one hundred thousand dollars) which I seek your Partnership in accommodating for me. You will be rewarded with 30% of the total sum for your partnership. Can you be my partner on this? Already the funds have left the shore of Russia through diplimatic means to a European Holding financial institution where the final crediting is expected to be carried out. While I was on the process, My Boss got arrested for his Involvement in politics by financing the leading And opposing political parties (the Union of Right Forces, led by Boris Nemtsov, and Yabloko, a liberal/social democratic party Le

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http://newsfromrussia.com/main/2003/11/13/51215.html
http://newsfromrussia.com/main/2005/03/29/58914.html
http://www.nationmaster.com/encyclopedia/Mikhail-khodorkovsky
http://newsfromrussia.com/main/2003/11/13/51215.html YOUR ROLE:

These funds are secured in as escrow account in finanacial institution in the United Kingdom and can be transferred from the escrow account to your personal or business account once you have assured me of your ability and capacity to receive the funds for disbursement amongst the two of us at a ration i stated above. The funds were deposited in my name as a front for my client and all documents in relation to this bears my name to avoid the search by the government, so you need not entertain any worries.

To verify my claim, I would provide you the Escrow account details of the offshore account to enable you verify the existence of these funds. Once you have verified and you are in a position to assist in receiving the funds on my behalf, then I would provide you more details.

1. To verify, please call the ATM Number of the Bank: +44-7005-801-442.

The account balance can be confirmed from the steps above. I would provide you the name and contact officer at the financial institution, so as to enable you make collection and thereafter we would share the funds

All I need from you is to stand as the beneficiary of the above quoted sum and I will re-profile the funds with your name, which will enable the European Holding financial institution transfer the sum to you. I have decided to use this sum to relocate to American continent and never to be connected to any of Mikhail khodorkovsky conglomerates. The transaction has to be concluded within 5 to 10 working days, as soon as I confirm your readiness to conclude the transaction with me. Contact me via my private box so that I can furnish you with more details. Thank you very much.

Regards,
ALAN COOPER [Mr]

EMAIL; alancooper69@gmail.com

Really?!?!?!

2008-12-19T14:04:00.004-07:00

I was bullied onto facebook this week. I fought as hard as I could. But it was the same battle I lost with Friendster and Myspace. Once all social interaction moves to a social networking site I have two choices. (1)Cling to my principals but be lonely and bored. Or (2)Relent but be resentful and give off an air of superiority and bourgeois contempt. I usually choose option 2. So I signed up for facebook and was presented with a couple hundred profiles of people I went to high school with. Facebook suggested I might want to be friends with these people. I suggested to God that he should have smited those people twenty years ago when they were terrorizing me to the point that I seriously contemplated suicide. I have five friends from high school, because those were the five people I liked. Most everyone else was a douchebag. And I hardly think time will have improved them much. But what I find most disturbing is that so many of them had the nerve to reproduce. Some of those people had four plus kids.For a moment I felt slightly left out. Sort of like John Cusack's character in Grosse Pointe Blank, "They all have husbands and wives and children and houses and dogs, and, you know, they've all made themselves a part of something and they can talk about what they do. What am I gonna say? "I killed the president of Paraguay with a fork. How've you been?" Or more to the point, "I'm not married. I don't have any kids. And I'd blow your head off is somebody paid me enough.How are you?" God! I fucking love that movie. But the question now becomes how awesome does my life have to be in six years when the 20th reunion rolls around, for me to be insulated against insecurity? I mean a couple published books and some pictures of me in bed with Keanu Reeves and a sitting United States Senator good? Or should I skip it like I skipped the 5 year and 10 year reunions? Because do I really have to revisit that hellmouth when high school is never really over. I realized today I'm still the girl who does some guy's homework just so he'll talk to her. I still do it. Some guy smiles at me and I'm 16 again. So why on earth would I subject myself to the people that made being sixteen shorthand for pain and alienation? Well there will probably be cake. I do like cake. And I am exponentially better looking than when I was a kid, whereas most of those bastards peaked at 19. I don't know I've got time to think about it. I'll just stay away from facebook as much as I can.

I like grocery shopping

2008-12-09T14:56:00.000-07:00

Over the last few weeks friends have been coming up to me and saying, “You look amazing,” or “You’ve never looked better. Have you lost weight?” And I’m not bragging. Because I haven’t lost weight and other than surrendering my death grip on $300 anti-aging creams, I’ve made no changes to my beauty regime. So what do I owe my glow to you ask? Pleasure. Pure unadulterated hedonism at every opportunity. Sophia Loren used to gesture to her figure and say, “All you see I owe to spaghetti.” Well I don’t eat pasta. But I do have a body built by having wine for dinner. Not wine with dinner but a bottle of wine as dinner. And I devour chocolate for breakfast. I take multiple naps throughout the day regardless of whether I’m at work or not. And I have a minimum of two orgasms everyday. Sometimes I’m alone. Sometimes I’m not. Sometimes I’m just standing in line at the grocery store buying Nutella and Matt the dreamy cashier who looks like Brad Pitt and makes me laugh like Jon Stewart looks at me and I find myself rhythmically shifting from one foot to the next while I imagine us carnivorously fucking on the conveyer still damp from pork chops and freshly washed asparagus. And in that instance I’m making sweet love to the whole world and we all like it. To maintain this happy glow and blissful serenity I’ve had to give up everything that stresses me out.

*Couldn’t care less about work. I’m currently typing this instead of working on a project that could potentially protect the joint from disaster.

*Contrary to my affection for men as an instrument of pleasure I’ve again suspended my search for Mr. Right. The rejection and pain and humiliation are too overwhelming. I can’t help it if men don’t like me as much as I like them. I think I’d rather be a jolly spinster right now.

*I am letting my brother, my sister, and my friend Owen, row their own boats. I love them but there is a point when you just have to live your life. It has been proven to me that no matter what I give them I never get anything back. In his book “The Road Less Traveled” Scott Peck defined love. “Love is the will to extend oneself for the purpose of one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.” I’ve extended myself further for other people than I have in yoga during a warrior pose, and I don’t feel like I’ve grown spiritually anything other than tired.

*And no more dieting. I’m fat and sassy and plan to stay that way for a while. Right now the only way you’re getting me to eat a salad is if you eat one off me first. Preferably without a fork.

I guess that mysterious glow is called contentment. Dare I say…Happiness? At the very least I’m in a continuous good mood. Join me will you.

Japanese people are just cooler

2008-12-05T13:22:00.001-07:00

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If I had a d*ck it would be hard right now!

2008-11-19T10:35:00.001-07:00

Never Trust Anyone Over 45

2008-11-13T08:59:00.002-07:00

There is an anti-drug commercial from the 80’s that many people my age know and love. We don’t remember it merely because it was played at least twice a day in the prime after school television watching hours, but also because it was just so melodramatic. In the commercial a kid is sitting on his bed listening to music really loudly on his headphones and his father busts into the room and confronts him with a box of drug paraphernalia (not just a pipe and some weed, but what looks like an eight ball of heroin and some needles, which illustrates that this kid is from the suburbs and has ample allowance to buy such things). The boy recoils in fear knowing that he has to face his dad without the chemical assistance that he’s probably been relying on for the last year or so, and his father asks him, “Who taught you how to do this stuff?” And the boy yells back “You! Alright? I learned it by watching you”. And for the first time it dawns on the viewer that maybe the dad’s eyes weren’t wild and bugged out because he was incensed that his baby boy was experimenting with drugs, but because there was good dope in the house and junior was holding out on him. And the voiceover says, “Parents who use drugs have children who use drugs”. I think I have always loved that spot not just because of the absurdity of the notion that if the father was using drugs in front of his kid that he felt comfortable bursting in with authoritarian guns blazing. But because I loved the actors’ delivery of their lines. It’s not Oscar-worthy work but it was compelling. The whininess of the boy’s voice, the maniacal stare of the father with the simmering to a boil tone of voice while he demands answers from his kid. But mostly I love it because it set the precedent for all Baby Boomer/Generation-X interactions over the last 25 years. The Boomers ask their children why they can’t hold down a job, or finish college in less than four years, get or stayed married, raise children that aren’t Ritalin and Prozac zombies, and manage debt, and we their children answer back, ‘You! We learned it by watching you”. Now I feel obligated to preface this by saying that I think generations are the constructs of advertisers and lazy media. I find them reductive, and on the whole insulting generalizations. I only use the designates of Generation-X and Baby Boomers because I am myself lazy and need the short-hand. We all do it. Imagine you’re talking about a group of people and your conversation partner is unclear which person “Jerry” is. And “Jerry” is coincidently the only black person. And you make the instantaneous decision to risk looking like an ass by saying, “The black guy”. Instead of “You know, Jerry. The guy who is average height and weight with brown hair and brown eyes who wears t-shirts a lot. He sometimes eats peaches and roots for the Red Sox” The latter description says a great deal more about who Jerry is but you say “The black guy” because that gets the job done. Whomever you were speaking to now knows who “Jerry” is. I’m doing the same thing here when I use generations. I know we’re all God’s special little snow flakes, no two exactly alike. But some of us first fell when you could still tilt your head back, open your mouth and catch snowflakes on your tongue, without being afraid you’ve now been exposed to hazardous chemicals that will cause you to have flipper babies. And some of us are those peoples' neurotic I-Pod toting flipper babies. So please forgive me my use of labels. Especially when they cover such an expansive group, Generation-X is commonly defined as people born between 1964 and 1980. That means I definitely fit in the group but the only thing I have in common with someone who is forty-four years old to my thirty-one is that we both really hate people who are sixteen. The things that were supposed to define the generation when the term was first coined, were apathy, cynicism, and slackers. Civilization was expected to collapse under the weight of our flannel shirts and Nihilism. We were over-educated and under-employed in a rapidly changing economy in which none of the old rules applied. And obviously since we lacked the “passion and commitment” of our marching Woodstock attending parents, we would just give up and stay teenagers forever. But obviously that didn’t happen. Prognosticators underestimated just how much adolescence sucks, and ignored the fact that no one would willingly stay frozen in a place where you’re smart enough to know what you want, but too powerless to get it. So in an unexpected move we for the most part went the other way. My generation looked at what our parents were doing and decided to do our best to emulate our grandparents. Spirituality if not organized religion were considered better than navel-gazing and indecision. Patriotism even when we disagree with our government, in contrast to sit-ins and revolution. The practicality of changing things from the inside, chosen over the fatigue of the disappointed radical who never got the change they wanted. Family valued over career a “no-brainer” to a generation of latch-key kids who wouldn’t have minded more quantity time. Because parental love and attention is like fine wine or cheese. Only an expert can tell the good stuff from the grape juice and the Velveeta. To a kid all time spent with their parents is quality, and the more the better. Generation-X came of age and are raising their children in the shadow of the Global AIDS epidemic; Fundamentalist terrorism; Unfathomable poverty in the developing world; Genocide that no government will stop, so it is usually left up to individuals and privately funded non-profits; A rollercoaster economy that leaves serious doubt that we’ll ever be able to save for our own retirements, and a new potential environmental disaster or global plague looming over our heads every night on the nightly news. But we can’t whine. That is the job of the generation before ours.
Iraq is not a quagmire that costs thousands of American lives, untold numbers of dead and displaced Iraqis, and billions of dollars better spent elsewhere, it’s the “new Vietnam”. Because everything is about the Baby Boomers. Never mind that the Boomers are no longer the kids yelling at the grown-ups. That government that you think is on the wrong track, they look like them. Hey Baby boomers! The last sixteen years the guy making the decisions for better or worse was one of you. You chose him and he walked into that tackily decorated house with your interests in mind and your hopes on his back, so if you’re unhappy it’s not “Daddy’s” fault. It’s your idiot pot-smoking kid brother run amok.
What is it that we learned from you our parents? We learned drugs are good. As pot and LSD gave way to anti-depressants, its okay if everyone is doing it. We learned that “If you haven’t turned rebel by 20 you’ve got no brain, but if you haven’t turned establishment by 30 you’ve got no brain”. Even the socially conscious need to eat 200 different kinds of cheese, and have a vacation homes. We learned that something’s only a problem when it’s our problem. People rarely stomped their feet and threw tantrums about Social security when our grandparents were eating cat food and living in crappy nursing homes because they were too busy fighting commies, Nazis, and rickets to save for their golden years. But now that it’s the baby Boomers turn to sit on the front porch and talk about the weather it’s a crisis. More important than the education system that lets most of their grandchildren down to the point that few people if given the choice would send their children to the same public school they attended. And obviously it’s more important than climate change because even with the best medical care anyone can imagine all the baby boomers will be fertilizer before the really scary dessert dystopia sci-fi cannibalistic Mad Max: Beyond Thunderdome days arrive. As long as the Boomers can afford their erectile dysfunction drugs and other assorted magic pills that extend life spans past the point where it’s pretty, everything else will just have to fall into place.
So to answer the questions I posed earlier…Why can’t we hold down a job? The boomers invented outsourcing and the pervasive attitude that there is always something better just around the corner that leads us to job hop. Traditional lifetime employment doesn’t exist like it did for our grandparents, few of you wanted to take a job at twenty-two and keep it for forty years. And very quickly anyone saying they planned to retire from their current job if they were under 50 became as ridiculously quaint as a recipe that contained lard. Next question, why can so few Generation-X and following generations finish college in under four years? Because once the boomers had finished college and then a rush of them went back later in life the largest segment of the population stopped being committed to college costs. “The kids could take out loans If they’re lucky. And work and save and do it a little at a time if they’re not”. And why can’t younger people get married and stayed married? Because we’re fragmented and damaged people who expect too much. Somewhere along the way dating was dropped for “hanging out“. And intimacy was traded for sexual conquest and experimentation. Having a lover was suddenly more important then being loved. I’ll be the first to admit that equality was lacking. But dating and intimacy were two things that had been working for a while and were doing an awesome job of keeping the human race going. We were told by our parents that when we grew up we could have sex without love, so like children allowed to eat cake for dinner, we have sex without love. We were taught that male/female gender roles were oppressive and bad so we tossed them out and now nothing gets done and everyone is confused. We were taught instant gratification by the generation that insisted on the microwave, the drive-thru window, and pills that make the sadness go away so you don’t have to feel it. And that “I want it now” attitude extends to everything, including money which may not make the world go round, but I triple dipple dog dare you to try to exist without it. No one saves for a house anymore when they can get one NOW and just have a 30 year mortgage on a house they’ll trade up for a more expensive one in five years. And then again and again. Everything bigger and better until they’re overextended. Such as it is. No one is perfect and we are destined to become our parents. We can fight it or we can embrace it. Just as long as the sight of themselves reflected in us doesn’t frighten them too much.

Okay Somebody actually gets it

2008-11-11T10:27:00.001-07:00

Dottie is no longer waiting for the Great Pumpkin

2008-11-05T14:19:00.000-07:00

Now that the election is over this blog will likely become less politically centered in the coming months. Each year around this time I watch the It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. And each year I empathize with poor Linus. He has faith in something he has never seen. But he is sincere and believes to even doubt for a second that he will come, would make the Great Pumpkin never come to the pumpkin patch. And although other kids laugh and he misses out on the Halloween party and the trick-or-treating he stays and he believes. That’s how I have always felt about politics. I believe in the will of good men. I believe that America is a good and just country. My paternal grandfather from my father’s limited memories of him was a bit of a scoundrel but no one would dare say he was a lost cause. People would just shake their heads and say, “He’s a good boy. He’s just mislead.” And that is how I feel about America. It’s an amazing country but it is just misled. So I’m hoping that now that the Great Pumpkin aka Barack Obama has come to bring treats and love and hopefully a healthy economy to all the good little boys and girls that believed in him, that we won’t be proven fools. Those who know me personally know my love life has been like the U.S. Government been comedic in its ridiculous failures. And for most of the two years that Barack Obama has been running his courtship of me the voter has reminded me of my romantic relationships. When I first saw him four years ago, I thought he had something. But he seemed to being going steady with the state of Illinois and the U.S. Senate so I didn’t really think it would go anywhere. Then I started seeing him around and I thought he was smart and funny and he started flirting with me. He took an interest in the things I liked i.e. healthcare reform, women’s rights, an end to the war and Iraq. So I started talking my friends’ ears off about him. “Do you think he’ll run for president?” and “Didn’t he look cute today?” And “Do you think he cares about a black woman in Utah the reddest state in the union?” My friends assured me he was interested in me and I should flirt back. So after he declared his candidacy for the presidency I gave him a $20 donation. Nothing too big, I didn’t want him to think I’m easy. I don’t give money to everybody. John Kerry and I did the “will they or won’t they” dance for six months before I gave him any money. And I only did it with him once and it wasn’t really all that good. But Barack started sending me emails and a sign for my yard and assorted other presents, mostly with his picture or name on them. What can I say? I like my men arrogant. You know like the kind of man who thinks he is qualified to be the most powerful man in the world. Now at this point if he was a potential boyfriend and not a political candidate he would have started seeing someone else, or told me he wasn’t interested in me, or just started ignoring me. But our relationship continued. He’d email me. I’d campaign a little for him. He’d do something to make me smile like trounce Hillary in a primary, and I’d send him another donation. Finally I’d met a man who was interested in my hopes and dreams and my fondest desires for a better world. And now I’m quite certain that we’re going to be a thing for a good long while. I sat around like Linus for my entire adult life waiting for my own Great Pumpkin, a man who actually understands me. And he actually showed up. I will no longer need my own blue blanket, liquor and feigned cynicism. But when it comes to cynicism I believe what George Carlin said, “Scratch any cynic and you’ll find a disappointed idealist.” Scratch and sniff me, I smell like Pumpkin.

Someone really shares Cindy McCain with the public

2008-10-28T09:41:00.001-06:00

Cindy McCain Claims She2019s 2018Just Like Any Other Female Human2019

Everything old, is new again

2008-10-24T15:40:00.002-06:00

I know you were sick or it eight years ago. But this time they have something to say.

My first time was with Bob Dole

2008-10-21T09:56:00.000-06:00

Lincoln Logs

2008-10-20T13:19:00.004-06:00

Abraham Lincoln and his presidency are occasionally linked to JFK because they were both assassinated. But as I read more and more books about Honest Abe I'm finding interesting parallels between the 1860 presidential election and 2008. Anyone who paid attention in elementary school knows Abe was poor. He did his homework by candlelight and worked as a laborer to help out his family. But shortly after marrying Mary Todd he was painted by political opponents as the candidate of wealth and privilege. Similar to a certain young man from Hawaii raised by a single mother who occasionally was on public assistance. Barack Obama never had any real money until his last book was a best seller. He and his wife both spent time in public service. They were hardly starving but it's unfair to paint them as a elitist and rich. Another parallel is that Lincoln was a little known politician with nothing much to recommend him but a history of good ideas expressed in good speeches and a little time in the Illinois State legislature. Sound Familiar? Both Lincoln and Obama ran against more established men (and in Obama's case, women) but when the dust settled they were the ones left standing. Lincoln had William Seward, Salmon Chase, and Edward Bates. Obama defeated Clinton, Biden, and Edwards. All six people made the mistake of thinking it was their turn and the young upstart was just one more minor obstacle on the road to the White House. Why do politicians always underestimate the public's hunger for something more? Why is the transformative power of one man with the answer and the ability to lead so impossible to see until you're standing on a podium conceeding an election to him?
I spoke on the phone to my 88 year old grandmother on Saturday. I know I'm surprised at the prospect of possibly seeing an African-American president in my lifetime, so she has to be about to fall over that she just may see it in her's. My grandmother grew up in Mississippi and as a woman of color was in her forties before she could vote. She's actually only a few months younger than the 19th Amendment that granted women the right to vote. And Barack Obama doesn't have her vote because he is black or simply because he is on the side of gender equality that she is, but because she beleives he can make America the place children in other countries hear about in bedtime stories.
Both Lincoln and Obama have run for the highest office in the land at a time when the wrong man could either keep his country together or preside over it falling apart. The United States of America is a grand idea. A bunch of people of different races, religions, ideologies, and backgrounds deciding to get together and pollute the environment, consume more of the world's resources than we produce, wage wars, and spread hegemony whenever and wherever we can. And it takes vigilance for the whole thing not to fall apart. Lincoln had that. America could be two countries right now. And I think Obama has that. So I think that we won't end up in a post-apocalyptic Mad Max beyond Thunderdome reality if he's elected.

Princess? Meh!

2008-10-20T10:02:00.002-06:00

Some women are born great. Some women achieve greatness. Others have greatness thrust upon them. Sarah Haskins just is great

Fool-proof Pie Crust

2008-10-15T13:57:00.000-06:00

4 cups all purpose flour,
1 tbsp sugar
2 tsp salt
1/2 cup water
1 3/4 cup of shortening {not refrigerated, do not use oill, lard,margerine or butter}
1 tbsp. vingegar
1 large egg.
In large bowl, stir together with fork; add flour ,sugar, and salt. Cut in shortening until crumbly. In small bowl beat together water, vinegar and egg;add to flour mixture and chill at least 1/2 hour. Can be refrigerated for a week. Makes 2 , 9 inch double crust pies and one pie shell or 20 tart shell. Scraps can be rerolled if necessary. This is the recipe I use on Thanksgivings.
I found it today love you very much,
MOM

John McCain Keeps Giving me the Bad Touch

2008-10-15T10:31:00.001-06:00

Lately J-Mac has been reminding me of a pervy neighbor I knew when I was a little girl. He never molested me but I could totally tell he wanted to. It was something in the eyes, and the way he tried to build an intimacy between us that separated me from the people I trusted. Walnuts (as the cool kids like to call John McCain) has made it is singular mission in this world to scare me so I will turn to him. And yet again it isn't going to work. I will not let him into my private places. What has been bothering me the most is the scare tactic of associating him with terrorists. William Ayers was a 60's radical. Raise your hand if you wouldn't have been a radical in the 60's. I imagine there aren't all that many raised hands out there. Ayers was in his misguided way trying to fight injustice. He was opposed to the Vietnam War. (No doubt Johnny Mac wouldn't have minded that brouhaha ending a bit sooner.) He also went about righting domestic injustices in what I think we can all agree was the wrong way. His criminal activities are a prime example of what happens when young people don't feel like they can trust their government to do the right thing. Some stand in front of tanks some do something even more extreme. But the tactic of associating Obama with actions an acquaintance took while the Senator was in elementary school is beneath the Republican. But that's how the old man's mind works. If he associated with Ayers and Rev. Jeremiah Wright we can't trust him. Just like your grandpa, he thinks who you're friends are is important. I'm more interested in who a man is himself. We all have associations we're not necessarily proud of. I once accidentally joined the communist party. All I know is that an incredibly good looking guy who was I admit dressed pretty drably asked me to take a survey. The survey consisted of questions about equality and fairness and the rights of the working man. I check "yes" that I agreed with a lot of the statements and at the end I signed my name. And Comrade Sexy shook my hand and said "Welcome to the Communist Party." I froze and then ran away. Issues of the Socialist Worker arrived regularly in the mail for almost a year. It took many letters and phone calls to formally leave the Communist Party, but I did. I joined something without knowing what I was doing, and that will likely follow me around a bit if I enter politics. Something similar happened to John McCain. In 1981 he joined the U.S. Council for World Freedom as a board member. He was new to Washington and joined something without really investigating it. On the surface they supplied arms and funds to paramilitary groups in Latin America. But if he'd really looked closer he would've discovered that according to the Anti-Defamation League at the time it was affiliated with the Anti-Communist League which was a gathering place for extremists, racists, and anti-Semites. J-Mac has a lot of faults but he isn't a racist or an anti-Semite as far as I can tell. But once upon a time he associated with some. That is definitely in my opinion a better scary campfire story than serving on an education board with a FORMER 60's radical.
Recently McCain formed his Presidential transition team and chose William Timmons to head it up. Again if you don't look too close just anther Washington Lobbyist. You know the kind Grandaddy Mac despises. But if you scratch the D.C. vanish on Timmons you learn that he worked with Saddam Hussein after the first Iraq war to lessen the sanctions against Iraq. Which means we can't link Saddam Hussein to 9/11 but we can link him to John McCain. In one step. There are more degrees of separation between Kevin Bacon and Miley Cyrus (It can be done in three steps but I won't tell you). We all make friends. And we don't always choose them carefully enough. Sometimes you just have to look into someone's eyes just like McCain claims he has done with Vladamir Putin, and just trust your instincts. And when J-Mac's eyes meet mine through the TV screen I see a little old man trying to confuse me so I'll give him what he wants. Right now it's just my vote. But what's next?